Whether they want to admit it or not, most college students double major in spouse-scouting as well as their actual fields of study.
Something about the mixture of freedom, independence, hormones and movie nights makes romantic relationships a must-have on college campuses.
Dating is an intrinsic part of college life. It is inevitable, and it most likely will always stay that way. However, the question remains, is dating okay for college students?
It may seem blasphemy to challenge such a steadfast pillar of higher educational sanctity, but college is a time to mature and develop our skills for adulthood. For this reason, we must view dating not as our left arm, but as an activity that should be analyzed for its value.
If dating is healthy for college students, we must be ready to ask fundamental questions like, “Why do we date?” or “Are we doing it right?” Only then can we determine if dating is good for us.
Don’t worry. I am here to tell you that dating is okay. Now that you’ve wiped the sweat from your brow, sit back and read on as to why.
Dating teaches us responsibility. It is no longer the male who primarily provides for the family, both spouses are responsible for financial aspects of family rearing.
In college, dating helps us hone those skills financially and otherwise. Dating helps us learn time management, money management, wisdom with our words and even helps us mold our values.
Dating allows hearts to be broken. Why on earth is that a good thing? It helps us mature and develop our understanding of who we are and who we want our spouse to be.
A failed relationship reveals to us mistakes that we’ve made that we can eliminate in the future, as well as narrow down our vision of the man or woman with whom we would spend the rest of our lives.
A broken heart also provides an opportunity to work on our relationship with God. As adulthood approaches the college student, personal growth through trial and error is practical and vital.
Dating helps us learn to communicate, which is an essential part of a successful marriage, or any relationship in general.
Communication is also one of the toughest skills to master in a dating relationship. For whatever reason, guys and girls in a relationship communicate about as well as two foghorns in a blizzard. Therefore, dating should be seen as an opportunity to work on our communication skills.
This will help us not only in our romantic relationships, but other relationships at a job or with friends. Dating teaches us self-sacrifice. Many college students are far more interested in their own futures than in that of others. Dating helps us learn to put effort into bettering the lives of other people.
A couple, married or not, is a team. That’s one of the unspoken rules in a committed relationship. The focal point of a relationship should be on the other.
It works the same way in the real world. An employer wants to know what you are going to sacrifice for a job, and how willing you are to put forth considerable time and effort.
In the same way, a spouse wants to marry someone who is willing to sacrifice everything for him or her. This is the most important aspect of a relationship, and dating shows us just how much we are willing to sacrifice for the person.
As college students, we are still learning about who were are and what we want our lives to look like in the future. Our activities in college will often determine our path for the future.
Dating becomes much more than a social activity; it becomes an important aspect of personal growth and planning ahead.
Marriage is arguably equally as important as one’s future job. You can change jobs, but your spouse will be your partner for a lifetime. Hence, it would almost be senseless and irresponsible to not date in college.